Comments on: Mean Things People Say http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/ Diane Carbonell shares weight loss and weight maintenance strategies Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:30:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Nancy B. Kennedy http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-4422 Nancy B. Kennedy Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:55:00 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-4422 Marissa, You are 13 and at the start of your life. I want you to enjoy it! I don't know what you look like or how tall you are, but 110 doesn't sound like all that much (my 10-year-old is about 80 pounds). See what your doctor says... or ask your gym or health teacher for an evaluation. Isn't 13 about the age when you wear junior sizes anyway? I hate shopping for pants, too. But it may just be your body shape, not your weight, that troubles you. I'll always have thunder thighs, even at size 10. Jenny, come on over to my website. I'm telling the stories of 30 people who lost weight and how they did it. I want people to know that it can be done, and that many people have succeeded. Find something that looks doable to you, then start in. You're 26 and have a lot of life ahead! Do you know what I would give to have lost my weight in my 20s?!? (Sorry, Diane. I don't mean to hijack your soap box. These two replies just spoke to my heart.) Marissa, You are 13 and at the start of your life. I want you to enjoy it! I don’t know what you look like or how tall you are, but 110 doesn’t sound like all that much (my 10-year-old is about 80 pounds). See what your doctor says… or ask your gym or health teacher for an evaluation. Isn’t 13 about the age when you wear junior sizes anyway? I hate shopping for pants, too. But it may just be your body shape, not your weight, that troubles you. I’ll always have thunder thighs, even at size 10.

Jenny, come on over to my website. I’m telling the stories of 30 people who lost weight and how they did it. I want people to know that it can be done, and that many people have succeeded. Find something that looks doable to you, then start in. You’re 26 and have a lot of life ahead! Do you know what I would give to have lost my weight in my 20s?!?

(Sorry, Diane. I don’t mean to hijack your soap box. These two replies just spoke to my heart.)

]]> By: Jenny http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-3831 Jenny Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:19:37 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-3831 I'm 26 and I weigh 536.......any suggestions? I’m 26 and I weigh 536…….any suggestions?

]]> By: Marissa http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-3828 Marissa Fri, 02 Oct 2009 21:27:50 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-3828 Yeah,thats how I feel. I feel like whenever i turn around people are just whispering about how fat I am. Yeah,thats how I feel. I feel like whenever i turn around people are just whispering about how fat I am.

]]> By: Marissa http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-3827 Marissa Fri, 02 Oct 2009 21:23:10 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-3827 I am so sorry all those things happened to you guys. My heart goes out to all of you and your courage. I am 13 and I weigh 110! Although I don't neccesarily look fat and people don't call me fat I still feel big. I dont even know why. I have to wear junior pants and roll the up because kids pants don't fit me. I hate shopping for pants because I just feel plain old big. Does anyone know if I truly am fat? And please tell me the truth! I am so sorry all those things happened to you guys. My heart goes out to all of you and your courage. I am 13 and I weigh 110! Although I don’t neccesarily look fat and people don’t call me fat I still feel big. I dont even know why. I have to wear junior pants and roll the up because kids pants don’t fit me. I hate shopping for pants because I just feel plain old big. Does anyone know if I truly am fat? And please tell me the truth!

]]> By: Nancy B. Kennedy http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2888 Nancy B. Kennedy Sat, 12 Sep 2009 15:44:08 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-2888 Stephanie... there's something about getting older. My mother and my husband's mother say the most shocking things now! (Recently, we drove into the parking lot of the library as an African-American family was getting into their car. My mother said, "I guess we're not the right color to go to this library." I was stunned!) It's hard to let the comments go. They almost take my breath away. I hope I can retain some inner controls as I age! .-= Nancy B. Kennedy´s last blog ..<a href="http://thirtyways.blogspot.com/2009/09/politics-religion-and-atkins-diet.html" rel="nofollow">Politics, religion and the Atkins diet</a> =-. Stephanie… there’s something about getting older. My mother and my husband’s mother say the most shocking things now! (Recently, we drove into the parking lot of the library as an African-American family was getting into their car. My mother said, “I guess we’re not the right color to go to this library.” I was stunned!) It’s hard to let the comments go. They almost take my breath away. I hope I can retain some inner controls as I age!
.-= Nancy B. Kennedy´s last blog ..Politics, religion and the Atkins diet =-.

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2560 Stephanie Sat, 05 Sep 2009 01:05:38 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-2560 I can feel the pain, embarassment, and humiliation you must have experience when people said those things to you. Just this June, my kids and I traveled half-way across country to see my family. My grandmother watched me pick up my 15 month-old son and then him naturally spread his legs to allow for my hip. To this she said, "Wow, that's an awfully big stretch for him." She immediately apologized when we heard what she was saying, but I've gotten it ever since I started gaining weight. I missed out on so much in high school because of similar comments you received. I don't recall ever getting them from my classmates, but I felt badly about myself, so I thought they were all at least THINKING them. I can feel the pain, embarassment, and humiliation you must have experience when people said those things to you. Just this June, my kids and I traveled half-way across country to see my family. My grandmother watched me pick up my 15 month-old son and then him naturally spread his legs to allow for my hip. To this she said, “Wow, that’s an awfully big stretch for him.” She immediately apologized when we heard what she was saying, but I’ve gotten it ever since I started gaining weight.
I missed out on so much in high school because of similar comments you received. I don’t recall ever getting them from my classmates, but I felt badly about myself, so I thought they were all at least THINKING them.

]]> By: Nancy B. Kennedy http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-940 Nancy B. Kennedy Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:06:03 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-940 When I was in my 20s, I was in my best friend's wedding. This was a Princeton wedding, mind you, at the University Chapel with a reception at the country club. So... the stakes were high. During the rehearsal, my friend turned to me and said, "Remember to stand with your feet together for the picture taking. Heavy women tend to stand with their legs apart." It's 25 years later and you bet I remember that comment to the last word. .-= Nancy B. Kennedy´s last blog ..<a href="http://thirtyways.blogspot.com/2009/07/christina-chapan-in-it-for-life.html" rel="nofollow">Christina Chapan: In it for life</a> =-. When I was in my 20s, I was in my best friend’s wedding. This was a Princeton wedding, mind you, at the University Chapel with a reception at the country club. So… the stakes were high. During the rehearsal, my friend turned to me and said, “Remember to stand with your feet together for the picture taking. Heavy women tend to stand with their legs apart.” It’s 25 years later and you bet I remember that comment to the last word.
.-= Nancy B. Kennedy´s last blog ..Christina Chapan: In it for life =-.

]]> By: Cyndi http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-837 Cyndi Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:32:37 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-837 My aunt is my primary critiquer in my family. She once told me to my face that my boyfriend of (currently) 9 years would like me better if I lost weight. She had met him a grand total of zero times when she stated this. Since my boyfriend and I have been together, my weight has fluctuated from 175 to 243. I'm currently 211 and losing. Never once has he treated me any differently. I wish I'd had some snappy comeback to my aunt's remark, but I take comfort in knowing she's absolutely full of sh*t :) My aunt is my primary critiquer in my family. She once told me to my face that my boyfriend of (currently) 9 years would like me better if I lost weight. She had met him a grand total of zero times when she stated this. Since my boyfriend and I have been together, my weight has fluctuated from 175 to 243. I’m currently 211 and losing. Never once has he treated me any differently. I wish I’d had some snappy comeback to my aunt’s remark, but I take comfort in knowing she’s absolutely full of sh*t :)

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-785 Diane Sun, 26 Jul 2009 01:44:13 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-785 Sandi - How awful for you. That happened t me so many times I couldn't even count them. To be honest with you, the comments didn't motivate me either, they did just the opposite. Thanks for coming by! Sandi – How awful for you. That happened t me so many times I couldn’t even count them. To be honest with you, the comments didn’t motivate me either, they did just the opposite. Thanks for coming by!

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/07/mean-things-people-say/comment-page-1/#comment-784 Diane Sun, 26 Jul 2009 01:42:45 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=638#comment-784 Janilou - You are right, and I can't believe what you overheard your mother say. How terrible for you. I looked at your website - very inspirational stories. You write very well! Janilou – You are right, and I can’t believe what you overheard your mother say. How terrible for you. I looked at your website – very inspirational stories. You write very well!

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