Comments on: Time to Focus on You http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/ Diane Carbonell shares weight loss and weight maintenance strategies Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:30:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Hanlie http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2730 Hanlie Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:43:05 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2730 You have such a wonderful way with words, Diane! This post resonated with me on so many levels. I also think that we can't truly change our lives if we're stuck in self-hatred mode... We need to start from a point of love and acceptance. It's taken me a while to get there, but I think I'm finally on my way. Great, great post! .-= Hanlie´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.fertilehealthy.com/blog/2009/09/09/impossible-is-nothing/" rel="nofollow">Impossible is nothing</a> =-. You have such a wonderful way with words, Diane! This post resonated with me on so many levels. I also think that we can’t truly change our lives if we’re stuck in self-hatred mode… We need to start from a point of love and acceptance. It’s taken me a while to get there, but I think I’m finally on my way.

Great, great post!
.-= Hanlie´s last blog ..Impossible is nothing =-.

]]> By: Kat http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2705 Kat Wed, 09 Sep 2009 08:32:24 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2705 Hi Diane, Focusing on the positive is so very helpful to me. It is definitely a process, and we have to love ourselves enough to be patient enough to reap the benefits of our efforts. Thank you for another thought provoking post. Hi Diane,

Focusing on the positive is so very helpful to me. It is definitely a process, and we have to love ourselves enough to be patient enough to reap the benefits of our efforts. Thank you for another thought provoking post.

]]> By: Tammy http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2703 Tammy Wed, 09 Sep 2009 05:17:44 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2703 You totally hit a nerve with me on this post....makes me shudder. I have a hard time picking out good things about myself....especially after a fight like the one I had with my sister today, where she had no problem pointing out my failure. :( .-= Tammy´s last blog ..<a href="http://foodaddict-fromfattofab.blogspot.com/2009/09/life-in-photos.html" rel="nofollow">Life In Photos</a> =-. You totally hit a nerve with me on this post….makes me shudder. I have a hard time picking out good things about myself….especially after a fight like the one I had with my sister today, where she had no problem pointing out my failure. :(
.-= Tammy´s last blog ..Life In Photos =-.

]]> By: Leah http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2702 Leah Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:19:30 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2702 This is so very true. I have usually been able to see some good parts of me and my life, but I usually HATE how I look. That sounds superficial, but in being truly honest..I've worried more about how I look than about being healthy or having better eating habits. I think learning to love myself as I was really is where my weight loss journey began for this last time, even though if you would've asked me then about my weight I would've told you I had given up on diets and was just going to learn to accept myself as as stylish, pretty, overweight woman. I even told two of my friends this very thing. I had bought new clothes for our trip out west to see family over the holidays and I felt very cute and wasn't going to care what people thought, and I really didn't. Until... ... I saw a picture of myself and felt that it misrepresented me. The "real" me was hidden under the fat. That's another story for another time, but I'm trying to say that I totally agree with you and I am learning to enjoy every little victory and step down the scale instead of constantly looking ahead to how life will be when I'm thin. Thanks for the very introspective post. It is so true and I appreciate again your honesty and willingness to try and help all of us that struggle in these same areas. .-= Leah´s last blog ..<a href="http://leahs-new-ending.blogspot.com/2009/09/deliverance-is-coming.html" rel="nofollow">Deliverance Is Coming!</a> =-. This is so very true. I have usually been able to see some good parts of me and my life, but I usually HATE how I look. That sounds superficial, but in being truly honest..I’ve worried more about how I look than about being healthy or having better eating habits.

I think learning to love myself as I was really is where my weight loss journey began for this last time, even though if you would’ve asked me then about my weight I would’ve told you I had given up on diets and was just going to learn to accept myself as as stylish, pretty, overweight woman. I even told two of my friends this very thing. I had bought new clothes for our trip out west to see family over the holidays and I felt very cute and wasn’t going to care what people thought, and I really didn’t. Until…

… I saw a picture of myself and felt that it misrepresented me. The “real” me was hidden under the fat. That’s another story for another time, but I’m trying to say that I totally agree with you and I am learning to enjoy every little victory and step down the scale instead of constantly looking ahead to how life will be when I’m thin.

Thanks for the very introspective post. It is so true and I appreciate again your honesty and willingness to try and help all of us that struggle in these same areas.
.-= Leah´s last blog ..Deliverance Is Coming! =-.

]]> By: Cammy@TippyToeDiet http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2700 Cammy@TippyToeDiet Wed, 09 Sep 2009 02:18:04 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2700 As you can imagine, losing 100 pounds at age 50 left a bit of an "aftermath", so I can't say I love how I look. I do, however, know and appreciate that I look better than I did. More importantly, though, is that I *feel* so much better--physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and any other 'which-ly' exists. I found strength and resilience I didn't know I had, and all of that's on the inside. I'm so glad I was focused on the right things and was able to see the REAL me emerge. .-= Cammy@TippyToeDiet´s last blog ..<a href="http://tippytoediet.com/2009/09/makeover-monday-dont-believe-everything.html" rel="nofollow">Makeover Monday: Don't Believe Everything You Think</a> =-. As you can imagine, losing 100 pounds at age 50 left a bit of an “aftermath”, so I can’t say I love how I look. I do, however, know and appreciate that I look better than I did. More importantly, though, is that I *feel* so much better–physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and any other ‘which-ly’ exists. I found strength and resilience I didn’t know I had, and all of that’s on the inside. I’m so glad I was focused on the right things and was able to see the REAL me emerge.
.-= Cammy@TippyToeDiet´s last blog ..Makeover Monday: Don’t Believe Everything You Think =-.

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2699 Diane Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:57:24 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2699 @Andrea - I found it to be so good for everyone when I did take those few minutes to exercise, or prepare a healthy snack, or just sit by myself. It is easy to get overwhelmed, because we are all so busy! @Lisa - I'm thinking about you, and am happy you have a new plan for this month. @Debbie - Thank you so much. I really enjoy your blog. @Andrea – I found it to be so good for everyone when I did take those few minutes to exercise, or prepare a healthy snack, or just sit by myself. It is easy to get overwhelmed, because we are all so busy!

@Lisa – I’m thinking about you, and am happy you have a new plan for this month.

@Debbie – Thank you so much. I really enjoy your blog.

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2698 Diane Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:55:46 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2698 @Pam - I hope that your friend gets some encouragement and inspiration from how well you've done on your own journey! @Hadley - That is just so brilliant! In fact, when you read about people who lost weight, a lot of times it was actually seeing a picture of themselves that got them started. @Pam – I hope that your friend gets some encouragement and inspiration from how well you’ve done on your own journey!

@Hadley – That is just so brilliant! In fact, when you read about people who lost weight, a lot of times it was actually seeing a picture of themselves that got them started.

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2697 Diane Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:54:38 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2697 We are so programmed to put ourselves last, that to do otherwise seems contrary. But like I said to someone else, being a happier "me" makes me a better Mom too! We are so programmed to put ourselves last, that to do otherwise seems contrary. But like I said to someone else, being a happier “me” makes me a better Mom too!

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2696 Diane Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:53:39 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2696 @Kathy - Thank you for commenting. @Jenn - It absolutely is huge to come to that realization. Because for me, part of it was realizing that the weight loss was just the beginning. @Kathy – Thank you for commenting.

@Jenn – It absolutely is huge to come to that realization. Because for me, part of it was realizing that the weight loss was just the beginning.

]]> By: Diane http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/2009/09/time-to-focus-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2695 Diane Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:52:40 +0000 http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog/?p=1106#comment-2695 erin - You are really smart to realize that introspection can be helpful if you can keep a positive tilt to it! erin – You are really smart to realize that introspection can be helpful if you can keep a positive tilt to it!

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