Comments on: I Was Judging UnFairly

By: Mackattack (Beth)

Mackattack (Beth) — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 22:43:38 +0000

I don't think you really can guide anyone to make the right choices. Just lead by example? No one likes to be preached at and so there could be more resistance and acceptance... .-= Mackattack (Beth)´s last blog ..Warning! =-.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:40:52 +0000

I have to step out of the kitchen when my mother cooks. The amount of olive oil she pours into her food is a point of contention between us. I know it’s “good” for you, but oils make my tummy churn. And the fact that just one tablespoon has 120 calories doesn’t seem to register with her. Everything she makes is literally swimming in it. I haven’t a clue how to handle this, as some people can be quite stubborn when it comes to the way they prepare food. Especially if they think you’re taking a “holier than thou” approach. I guess next time, just make sure your guest doesn’t bring the main dish
.-= Susan´s last blog ..Survivor =-.

By: asithi

asithi — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 15:10:04 +0000

I might have a mental OMG! like you, but I will never say anything. Neither will I eat any. If asked, I just tell them I am lactose intolerant (which I am mildly, but I can eat some cheese). Usually at gatherings, I bring a veggies platter or a salad, just so I can have something to eat. .-= asithi´s last blog ..On to a Bigger and Brighter Future =-.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 09:08:00 +0000

I think I would have kept quiet too. It is so easy to offend people, and I try to be sensitive and non judgemental. When I am in other folks homes I try to be respectful and usually take a small portion of something offered. I like the idea of bringing a healthy snack or dish to our friends. .-= Kat´s last blog ..another crazy busy day! =-.

By: julie

julie — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 05:00:31 +0000

I should clarify that I would only say something to someone familiar to me, in my kitchen, absolutely not to a stranger in someone elses house. I'm not really one to talk, when I eat a Dungeness crab, I eat about 1/3 stick butter with it. I take two meals to eat it, but I'm sure it's gross and excessive to many. If I ate more than one or two a year, I might find a different sauce. .-= julie´s last blog ..Shopping from size XL to S =-.

By: Lori (Finding Radiance)

Lori (Finding Radiance) — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 00:26:05 +0000

I always let it go unless someone specifically asks me. Just like I don’t want to judge what people are eating or have in their shopping carts.

You never know where someone is in their journey. Maybe a high fat meal you see them eating is actually one splurge. Or maybe what they are eating is less than they normally would eat as they work their way down towards eating healthy. Or maybe they don’t care. It’s not any of my business, really. I can only control what goes into my own mouth.

I think it is just as annoying for someone to comment on how horrible you are eating as it is to get razzed for healthy eating.
.-= Lori (Finding Radiance)´s last blog ..Cruising food plans =-.

By: Carla

Carla — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 00:22:59 +0000

This is a difficult situation. I think that most people know what is good or bad for them, but for one reason or another, they aren't in a good place in their lives to take on the challenge to eat better. No matter what anyone says to them, it won't make a difference. One thing I know is that in the past, when I would make bad food choices, I sometimes felt that people were watching me and judging me. I even overheard my mother in law talking to a friend about how much I was eating! This only made me want to eat more. .-= Carla´s last blog ..Feeling fit =-.

By: Quix

Quix — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:06:42 +0000

I’m always counting calories in my head as well, but I’d NEVER say anything to anyone else. I realize that the meals I share with friends are too rare to really be that strict now that I’m at a healthy weight. If it looks fattening, I’ll have a little nibble or skip it and move on.

Biz, people say that to me all the time. Look I’m eating healthy, it’s a salad! …yeah, but with fried chicken and ranch and bacon and fried onions and cheese and gobs of full fat dressing…sigh…
.-= Quix´s last blog ..Spoiled Brat Syndrome =-.

By: Biz

Biz — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:43:04 +0000

I loved this post Diane – even before I became diabetic, calories/fat/carbs are just in my brain, I can’t help it.

I work with a woman who is borderline morbid obese. She always comments when I make stirfry’s at lunch about how healthy I eat. One such occassion she came in as I was making my lunch and said “Biz, you’ll be so proud of me – I am making a healthy lunch!”

She proceeded to cut a small tomato, diced up one pound (yes you read that correctly – 16 ounces) of mozzarella cheese and poured in Paul Newman’s All Fat Balsamic Dressing over the top – my guess was about 3/4 of a cup.

She walked away so happy, and my mouth was on the floor – I think I calculated her “healthy” salad as around 1600 calories and 48 grams of fat.

Some people care, some don’t is how I look at it. Had she asked me to tell her if was healthy or not, I probably would have set her straight.

But it isn’t hard to judge what others eat!

(aren’t you glad I can type 120+ wpm?!)
.-= Biz´s last blog ..Insonmnia =-.

By: kilax

kilax — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:31:18 +0000

I may think something mentally, but I will NEVER say anything out loud. It is not my place and I hate it when people comment on the vegan food I am eating.

Maybe this woman was making the bread as a special occasion treat! We do have unhealthy snacks from time to time!