I know it’s the weekend and I usually post something about my family or something that is going on in my life. And I may put that up tomorrow. But twice today I was confronted with something I see ALL THE TIME and for some reason it struck me wrong.
Here’s the first scenario:
I’m in the parking lot of Kroger putting my groceries in the car. A woman and her daughter come up next to me and begin unloading their groceries. I glance over, mainly to make sure they aren’t ax murders or something, and can’t help but notice three things:
- The mom is about as big as I used to be.
- The little girl, who is probably about eight years old, is fairly overweight.
- They are each holding a candy bar while at the same time opening a 20 oz soft drink – the mom a coke, and the little girl an carbonated orange drink.
The mom tells her daughter, “You can’t go wrong with a soda and a candy bar on a hot day.”
It made me so sad to see this. I was morbidly obese. I know how it feels to be obese, and even at my biggest I knew I didn’t want any of my children to be obese. Not obese as a child or an adult. I wondered why the mom would offer a huge soda which had over 200 empty calories in it coupled with a several hundred calorie chocolate bar. Doesn’t she realize that she is setting her daughter up for a life of difficulties, both from the emotional toll obesity can take and the health problems obesity brings?
The second scenario was one a friend was telling me about. He was at a local donut shoppe and saw a morbidly obese woman eating donuts with her overweight child. And the child didn’t have just one donut, but rather two iced donuts complete with sprinkles. Now, I’m not a kill-joy. Not at all. We eat cookies on occasion. We have dessert. I think I’ve eaten a donut in the last two years (maybe). But if I was weight challenged, and my child was too, then feeding them two donuts at 7:00 a.m. wouldn’t be how I would generally start the day.
I don’t believe that government can regulate our food choices. Sure, they can force the manufacturers to eventually lower the sodium content in foods. They can work on reducing the trans fat/high fructose corn syrup/etc. in foods – but it does come down to individual choices.
That’s why I have such high hopes for the blogging community. It’s a grassroots community that has a wide reach and is influential. I hope that as time goes by we will all see less and less of these types of destructive behaviors. It grieves me when I see it or hear about it because I KNOW what it feels like to be morbidly obese, and it isn’t fun.
My husband asked me if I said anything to the candy bar/soda woman. “Of course not,” I responded. I never would have. Although I did want to ask her – “What’s so great about soda on a hot day? What about a bottle of water?” But I didn’t say anything. Instead I got into my car and drove home, thinking about it the whole time.
What do you think when you see things like this? Does it make you sad/mad/don’t care. Do you ever say anything? Diane
It’s interesting you should bring this up. Over at Big Fat Deal (a fat acceptance blog), there was a discussion of this very question. (http://www.bfdblog.com/2010/05/13/concern-trolling-via-post-it-note/)
Diane, I have to agree with you. It is not our place to say anything. Yes, I too would have been upset to see a clearly obese mother feeding her child junk food, just as I am disturbed to see women starving themselves to be thin (I work with someone who barely eats anything but lettuce–and she’s already very thin.) People know what they’re doing and it’s not our place to point out the obvious to them.
There are some things we can change, others we can’t. But unless she’s blind, she knows she’s fat. She may be very upset about it (but who are we to know?) or not. She knows. Reminding people of the obvious just gets them on the defensive.
BTW, as a very short person, I just want to scream when someone remarks on my height. Hello? You think I don’t know already?! No, it’s not just a cute comment. Same applies to people who are fat, skinny, whatever.
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It makes me sad, I wish it wasn’t like that, but I’m not the person to stop someone from making those decisions. You can only change people if they WANT to change, and many don’t or don’t realize they do.
.-= Mary (A Merry Life)´s last blog ..The Change I Need =-.
I get extremely upset when I see this. Hunni and I talk about this all the time for our kids. We want them to be able to enjoy treats like that but in moderation so it doesn’t effect their health.
I have such a hard time not saying something but I always bit my tongue or drink my water.
.-= Cynthia (It All Changes)´s last blog ..Reviving My Library Card =-.
NOPE, I never say a word either…I have to bite my tongue as I am so tempted and feel its not my place.
I have stopped people buying sweetener with aspartame in them but in South Africa where I can speak the language, not here… I did pass this on to my gym ladies….
Hi Marcelle
I was so pleased to read your comment. I love your blog and was an avid reader. I live in Edinburgh, Scotland, UK and enjoy reading about your life in Germay.
In April I went away for two weeks to get married. Once we got home I was excited to catch up on your blog only to find it’s now private. And I couldn’t quite workout how to email you. If you would still be open to having me as a reader (and I hope you will!) please let me know how I can subscribe.
Thanks a million
Stephaniex
PS: Diane I hope you don’t mind me asking here, I’m an avid reader of your blog too. I lost 30lbs to get to my ideal weight and enjoy all the health tips
Denial is so powerful and you have to wonder if these people you encountered are in deep deep denial? Or they just don’t care how big they are and that they are passing it on to their children.
As the other ladies stated I don’t voice my opionion unless asked and even then I try to be tactful.You can only change yourself and no one else.
.-= Susan´s last blog ..Not As Planned =-.
I think it’s all a part of not seeing the divide the same. To a fit person who has made the lifestyle change and an obese person looking on the same things appear very different. The obese person with a sugar problem sees the food as a deserved comfort. The fit person sees the sugar as an expensive indulgence that is not worth it most of the time.
To make that transition is difficult, but to block your child from that difference is another form of indulgence or even laziness. They don’t want to admit to themselves, let alone their kids. The only way I can think to help them truly overcome is to build their confidence and discipline.
.-= JourneyBeyondSurvival´s last blog ..Rx Strength =-.
I feel terribly judgmental reading my comment again.
.-= JourneyBeyondSurvival´s last blog ..Rx Strength =-.
Yep…I know how you feel. BTDT and I agree, it’s not wise to say a thing. I used to be disgusted/angry when I saw things like that but now what I try and do and feel compassion…serious compassion. I imagine something that makes my heart swell with pride and love and I imagine transfering that feeling to the person who must be dealing with a lot of fear…fear so deep he/she doesn’t even know it’s there. I think the most powerful thing we can do is model health and happiness, and when we have the right opportunity, when someone asks “how’d you do it?”, we can tell them.
.-= KCLAnderson (Karen)´s last blog ..From What-If To What-Is =-.
It makes me sad, not mad. I think that the parent probably is trying to do something good for her child. That kind of food fills a need for her and she’s trying to “do unto others.” I doubt s/he knows how bad these things are for her or for her child. I’ve been there. Never again.
.-= Tish´s last blog ..of Pitfalls and the Popsicles =-.
Yes, it is sad. No, I would never say anything.
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A favorite book of mine, “The Thin Commandments” mentions how Europeans differ from Americans in how they feed their children. He states, “It’s an interesting commentary that most of my European clients would consider it a form of child abuse to feed their children or keep in the home all that junk food that many American clients are convinced their children can’t live without.”
I don’t believe government should interfere either, except for regulating what’s fed to kids (on tax dollars) in public schools. Why are all breads not 100% whole grain, fresh fruits/veggies, and NO sweets served? I shudder to remember what I ate as a child at school. If kids are hungry, they will eat healthy food. Public service ads might help as well. And then you have these blogs too, but I fear they may not be reaching the population that really needs the info the most…
I would never say anything just for the simple fact of being on the receiving end of those comments. Most are not as nice as I imagine Diane’s would be.
Unfortunately, sometimes food = comfort and love, and we pass that on from generation to generation. Only one step at a time to break that emotional cycle….
.-= Jules – Big Girl Bombshell´s last blog ..What IF you believed in YOU? =-.
We see self-destructive behaviour in the blogs, too.
And well….it is what it is….
I never say anything either…it only backfires.
Yes, it is sad. And while I would never say anything, I think we can lead by example when we have our own gatherings or bring food to functions. If there are plenty of healthy and tasty choices, people may realize that they like foods they wouldn’t have tried otherwise and may eat them again. Small changes can lead to big changes… Trying to be positive here…
Have a good weekend!
.-= Andrea@WellnessNotes´s last blog ..New Find In My CSA Box and Lunch Salads =-.
It is sad and frustrating…however, we do live in a free society where people can make their own choices. I would never say anything because frankly it is none of my business and I am not about preaching to people about what they can and can’t eat. I certainly would not benefit from someone telling me what to do.
I do feel bad for the kids because this is how they are being brought up.
.-= Carly´s last blog ..Thankful Thursday =-.
If you’d said something it might would have made a change in her, BUT more than likely it would have made her want to eat even more! Sad, but true.
WOW! You took the words right out of my mouth. I get so sad when I see kids so young and already overweight. At this point in their lives, it’s the parents who are to blame. Education is key in bringing awareness to parents and children about proper nutrition and exercise!
.-= She-Fit´s last blog ..Bikram Yoga =-.
Why is it easy to assume that fat people eat/drink sugary treats more than thin people? For all anyone knows, those were both very special (rare) occasions.
When thin people eat/drink that way, they mostly go unnoticed. (“Share a coke and a smile” is only an immoral act in our culture, apparently, if the participants are fat.)
What if those same overweight consumers of candy/donuts/soda were picnicking at the park and (instead) eating carrot sticks, apples, walnuts, and tuna fish sandwhiches on whole wheat, with strawberries and plain yogurt for dessert? Would that make them more virtuous? Healthier?
My mom became morbidly obese eating only whole grains, legumes, fruits, veges, nuts, and lean meats. (Never, heaven forbid, did white sugar pass her lips.)
However, she ate large portions and too many servings of whole, unprocessed, organic, *healthy* food.
Everyday.
That’s pretty much how I got morbidly obese too.
I wonder if the obese parents feel lonely and bringing their child into their illness makes them feel closer, less alone, creating an unhealthy bond.
My aunt used to get my cousin (her daughter, as a child) stoned with her as their sick bonding experience. No good came from that just as no good will come from what you described.
.-= Gina Fit by 41 Maybe 42´s last blog ..Happy Mother’s-Heart Day =-.
RNegade makes some interesting points.
.-= Gina Fit by 41 Maybe 42´s last blog ..Happy Mother’s-Heart Day =-.
Lots of interesting responses here. I think as a culture we are wheeling the battleship, if slowly. When my kids were younger it was lots of parties and extravagant treats at school… there are new policies discouraging this. McDonald’s was almost taking over at the cafeteria (“That’s all kids eat anyway”) when Supersize Me came out and that idea died a quiet death. If enough of us fuss gently about it, lead by example, do a little brainwashing of the youth that come our way, things will change. It is true that plenty of thin people eat junk, and plenty of fat people eat rather well, but as a rule, I feel very comfortable in saying that junk food is fattening. Not that my own household couldn’t do with a bit of an overhaul… hmmm!
.-= Larkspur´s last blog ..No =-.
It is very sad!! I probably wouldn’t say anything though I might want to, but in the end I know it would not change anything. Eating Right is such a struggle, I thank God that I have change my eating ways…I feel great!! Better than ever! I still like to eat..I try to eat in moderation. What one eats is an individual decision/choice.
I like what Journey had to say about this. I never say anything when I see people like this. I don’t want to cause them to be embarrassed.
.-= Tami@nutmegnotebook.com´s last blog ..100th Post Coming To You From Anaheim =-.
I am guilty of looking at people’s shopping carts while we are shopping and wanting to scream. The overweight people get to me, but not as much as the ones in motorized carts with oxygen and a basket full of bad food. I want to scream “you either pay the grocer or you pay the Doctor !!”. But I don’t- I just continue on my way , filling my cart with our mountain of produce and whole grains with the knowledge that I am doing my best to be a part of the solution, and not another facet of the problem.
.-= Diane´s last blog ..Celebration Pizza =-.
I would never say anything, though it might make me sad. Not mad.
However, I have to stop and watch that I don’t assume just because the person is overweight that this is a normal habit to grab a Coke and a candy bar. We can probably safely assume, because of her comment and size, that it was a regular occurrence, but what if it wasn’t?
It would be like congratulating a thin person for making good choices solely because they are thin and I catch them eating a salad one time.
I am saddened by how large some children are getting these days, but I tend to lean more towards wishing their parents would help them stay active instead of watching t.v., playing games, etc. and watch their portions of food than worrying about the type of food they eat. I see plenty of thin children with quick metabolisms who eat the same stuff, but are never criticized since they aren’t gaining weight.
.-= Leah´s last blog ..Weigh-In …(1st GOAL!!) Getttin With It Update #7 =-.
There is a joke:
You can’t teach a pig to ride a bicycle.
one, the pig can’t do it,
and two, you will annoy the pig!
To which I add, and trying will annoy you.
Education is our strongest weapon.
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It’s not unlike drugs. We, who have consumed huge amounts of junk food, just develop a taste for it…which is exactly what the food scientists want to happen. I have been nearly junk-food free since March 1st of this year. I just made a decision (finally!) to eat about 1,700 calories per day, which left me eating a lot of fruits and veggies and natural foods. I am very happy with it and have lots 28 pounds (with minimal exercise so far). How was I finally able to break my junk-food habit? I really don’t know, but it coincided with me reading so many blogs about how others have done this too.
Love your site. Thanks for the inspiration and thought-provoking questions.
It’s child abuse.
Oh good post!! Man that would have made me mad too!! SO just today my aunt sent me pictures of her grandson eating a yogurt and he had it all over his face. It was BLUE. BLUE YOGURT??!!! He eats them all day- loves them. Well it’s BLUE so it’s marketed for kids and more than likely is LOADED with sugar! I got mad when I saw the picture!! I do not have kids (yet) and man I tell ya, there is NO way my kid will be eating blue yogurt! lol
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I don’t understand why the woman says that to her daughter. Maybe it is a lack of instruction? But we all know what is good or not (just hard to leave the bad to only healthy food…). I’m an overweight people as i always remember (or bmi =22 but you don’t feel like a pretty woman so gain weight again and overweight again blablabla). BUT my mother is not fat and not very kind of “healthy” food. I love her but she never made veggies for every meal. So it’s what i call “lack of food instruction”. I do know what is good or not (but so hard to apply on myself) but i cannot give bad food to my children it’s IMPOSSIBLE. I don’t want them to be otherweight (or obese) and suffer as i do.
I’ll be sad about this woman (mainly the daughter). But should i tell them i don’t think so. Hard to explain in a different langage what you think and say it with nice word (not rude).
She says it to her daughter to try and justify her behaviour, because deep down she knows it’s wrong.
I wouldn’t say anything.
It makes me sad for the kids because I know what kind of life is ahead of them as an obese person. And being the fat kid? Boy, that’s painful.
As a kid, my parents only let me have pop, chips, cake, cookies etc for special occasions. EVERYday was not a special occasion.
I’m amazed at the level of ignorance there is when it comes to eating properly and knowing what that entails.
While I agree that we each have personal accountability, I also agree with BigClyde’s comment about food scientists wanting this addiction to happen. Processed food is designed to get us hooked.
“The End of Overeating” is a great book that explains this in part. There are many others as well. “Mindless Eating” “Fatland”.
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When I see something like the scenario that you mentioned, it makes me sad but I don’t say anything because I know that the light bulb has to go off for each of us.
I was in the gym watching Man Vs. Food no less and it just made me think of all the awful stuff that I put in my body. However, no one (even if they were waving hundred of dollars) could have made me stop, as Dr. Phil would say, the part in my mouth back then…
.-= ‘Drea´s last blog ..A Hard Moment Here and There: Behind the Rock Climbing Mystique, Part I =-.
I think as I get older I care a bit more about this than I use to but I still wouldn’t bring it up with them.
you know what a hard time I have with these situations – but my KIDS have a much harder time. My kids absolutely can’t understand WHY moms send their kids down the same FAT trail. It is just awful.
.-= vickie´s last blog ..Sodium hurts =-.
Wow Diane, we are on the same wavelength! Just yesterday or the day before, I can’t remember which now, I saw a very overweight family at a grocery store with their cart full of junk. It really made me sad. I sometimes have the mad feeling too, but this just made me remember how I was in the past; how I kept living a destructive lifestyle no matter what the facts told me. I wish I knew how to shake reality into these people, but I don’t.
We just have to keep spreading the good message, letting people know there is hope. We have to keep being an example to others. Most of them have already given up; they just need someone to show them it is possible.
.-= South Beach Steve´s last blog ..Halfway There =-.
I always find it incredibly sad when I see things like this, but I never feel right saying anything. (Even when I weighed almost 140 pounds more than I do now, my kids were fed healthy food and none of them had to deal with the problems caused by being overweight.)
.-= moonduster (Becky)´s last blog ..The Courage To Dream =-.
Preach it sister! I agree with every word ! Sometimes a good rant feels good , and on this subject I believe we should all be ranting. I would have done the same as you , got in the car and drove off. Those are choices they need to make. And you saying something wouldn’t do a thing. sadly. One thing that amazes me is the school lunch choices. That just blows my mind. Good for you and your rant. love your blog , I will be a follower
.-= Bringing Pretty Back´s last blog ..2:30 A.M. phone call =-.
Okay, yes, we all have our decisions and choices to make, HOWEVER when it comes to making healthy food choices we all are swimming upstream against some mighty strong currents!
This is a rant over which I feel SO STRONGLY and have posted it elsewhere in a blog:
http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=1353895
Bottom line is: if cauliflower and broccoli had the same advertising campaign with bazillions of dollars dreaming up jingles about “deserving a break today” etc. instead of salivating and gorging on high-fat, high-sugar, highly processed NON-food items we would all be running around stuffing our faces with broccoli and cauliflower!
These multi-national corporations don’t throw all their zillions of dollars into advertising because it’s just *play* money! They are looking for a HEFTY return on their dollar.
At OUR COST!
They are looking to wage powerful influence on our so-called “freedom of choice!”
Can we still exercise freedom of choice?
Sure! But it takes extreme vigilance, awareness of the forces which are out to decieve and mislead us. How many average citizens out there can do this…?
One of the greatest motivators I have in leading a healthy lifestyle has been to FIGHT the CORPORATE efforts to CONTROL MY BODY! My money is NOT going to go to the CEO’s of McThis or That! I’m going to fight to put my MONEY on Local Farmers selling healthy and REAL food!
Don
Oh, and as for my reaction to seeing folks making such unhealthy choices? Breaks my heart! Rarely if ever do I say anything as I know how emotionally LOADED this whole arena can be. I just continue to do my best to inspire healthy choices in the people around me.
Don
Diane, I am so with you on this & have ranted on my blog too. I feel so bad for the children because the home is where they learn first. I did that whole Dland post & what I saw there with obese families & obese people in scooters but still eating like no tomorrow.
I don’t say anything as it is not my place. I may say something to a person I know but not a stranger. BUT, it is so hard to see this out there.
Like you, all we can do is offer up information & try to educate BUT they have to want it themselves too… and for their children!
.-= Jody – Fit at 52´s last blog ..Sunday Jogging; Reunion Pics! =-.
I’ve seen situations like this, too, and they’re really painful to watch. It’s not a contempt for the people, because heaven knows they’re where I was not so long ago (though I knew my choices were wrong, I just continued to make them). It’s more painful than anything. I think those of us who used to be morbidly obese and are at various stages of getting fit have a unique empathy for them. We know better than any how hard the journey is and how much easier it is just to give in and think (hope?) that our choices won’t lead to disastrous consequences. So since we’ve made the changes we need to make to get on a better path, I think it hurts us for others to see them doing to themselves what we used to do. Like you, I don’t think it’s my place to say anything, I just keep doing my thing, I’ll share my journey with anyone who asks, and I keep blogging.
.-= Chad´s last blog ..Weekly Weigh-In: Everything’s Bigger in Texas? =-.
well, not for nothin but I wouldn’t say anything. NOt because I wouldn’t want to….but because I really think it wouldn’t make a dent. The best thing anyone can do is be a good example. One morning I had to go pick my hubby up at work. I had my youngest with me, who is perfectly slim. We go into the store there and she wants a donut. I say “NO, you are NOT having a donut for breakfast..you can have a breakfast wrap (eggs and a slice of cheese in a tortilla) They were probably about the same calorie wise, nutitionally, world’s apart. So right after I say this I turn around and bam. There is an obese woman and her overweight child getting a donut out of the donut case. She heard me.
I felt bad for a minute. But then realized that I had made my choices and she had made hers. Maybe she will think about what it meant later, take a look at my daughter and think, I really want my daughter to be healthy. Even at my fattest, My kids were thin and healthy. I didn’t keep garbage in the house.
So, be a good example.
It is really sad to see a child already struggling with obesity. There are so many statistics that point to the fact that when a child is obese early in life, their chances of every getting to a healthy weight is slim. It really saddened me that the mom in the first scenario was painting a picture for her daughter-junk food=good times. That will be a hard one for the child to get past.
.-= karen@fitnessjourney´s last blog ..Your Fitness Questions Answered =-.
What, honestly, could you say to this woman in passing?? I don’t know. I can’t think of anything that could be said in the few seconds that you would interface with her that would change her. It has to come from within.
Your stories bring home again how important it is to teach our kids healthy eating habits. Yes, treats once in a while are fun! but not an every day thing necessarily. As was remarked above… Education is key!
I would never say anything unless asked. I have a friend who is in denial about her weight she has gained 60 pounds, but insist that her little girl (10 yr old) who is overweight needs to instead. And what she is in denial about also her little girl is overweight from modeling bad eating habits in the household that has led my friend to being overweight. It just hasn’t happened to her husband and son because they don’t snack as much and they actually exercise. Where as my friend and her child doesn’t do more than is required no exercising or even running around outside to play. So I’m getting a close hand experience of seeing the same type of thing.
My friend is always making cakes or cupcakes for the school but she eats them with her daughter and washes it down with sugary drinks as well. You can’t make people realize what they’re doing is wrong. She finally joined weightwatchers with me, so she’s sort of on the path. I gave her articles from sparkpeople.com because she kept talking about her daughters weight to me and that’s when I recommended she read articles from sparkpeople.com regarding a family eating and cooking healthy together and not just targeting one person in the family. I eventually just gave the articles to her, but she really is in denial that she is the problem not the child who doesn’t buy and purchase or control the household food. What do you do, I only say something when asked but in this situation I’m now out of it because I’ve said enough.
Keep up the good work with those you can influnece to make healthy changes one step at a time.
I mean’t to say in denial about the fact they both need to lose weight not just the child. She has joined weight watchers and she’s not even really giving that a real chance, she’s more obsessed talking about whats her favorite food instead of what the program is really for learning to eat healthy, exercise and live a healthy life so hay what can you do. She’s bounced back and fourth the last 6 weeks of the meetings with the same 4 pounds gaining and losing it. So until people are mentally ready as well there is nothing we can do or say until they finally get it on their own.And I’ve said my peace with her so I’m done. I hopes she gets it together because she’s my friend and I want her to be successful, but I know she comes up with a lot of reasons for not being successful so what can you really do.
I think what would help big time in this country is nutrition education, physical education and healthy lunches at school. All the things that are now missing from 99f% percent of public schools.
best of care everyone.
Diane, I have never heard it put this way about our blogging community. You’re right, it has immense capacity for change. I, too, have had many of those moments lately while “people watching,” around town, and it always saddens me. Hopefully as awareness grows, those instances will be fewer and fewer.
.-= Lara (Thinspired)´s last blog ..Salad Sunday & The Dailey Method =-.
It is about personal choice. I don’t have the right to tell other people what they should or shouldn’t eat, and the government ESPECIALLY should stay out of it. (Can anyone point to the part in the Constitution that saysy the gov’t should do those kinds of things?????) They have NO business trying to regulate the contents of food, how much sodium or how much fat is in various items.
There ARE people out there who NEED high fat, high sodium and high calories. My son with cystic fibrosis is one of them. When the pancreas doesn’t work and the body needs about 4000 calories per day, those high fat foods are NEEDED. Healthy eating is not always the same thing for EVERYONE. My cardiologist told me to take in more sodium.
I’m sure the folks at the grocery store think I go home and binge on the food I buy for my underweight kids.
But I don’t care what anyone THINKS, I know that I eat healthy and I buy the foods that my kids need, too.
.-= MamaBearJune´s last blog ..Fatty foods can be HEALTHY =-.
I felt really special reading this post: you know, being the friend and all!
While my wife and I currently do not have a weight problem, we are inspired by your journey. Furthermore, I am blessed to be married to someone that will be committed to making sure our future kids eat healthy.
By the way, the picture you posted was the exact kind of donut the victim was eating; I must be a good storyteller. Ha!
Man I struggle with this. In that Id never say ANYTHING EITHER and also cling to the fact that we as a healthy living community can change the world for the better and yet its so flipping heartbreaking for the kids.
They do what they see.
what they know.
and it’s shortening their collective lifespans.
.-= Miz´s last blog ..No Excuses! part 3 coming tomorrow! =-.
I see it all the time. It pains me to see these parents doing this, they are paving a very tough road for their kids. I used to be one of those kids and it makes life very difficult.
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