Comments on: Kids Truth

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 11:50:20 +0000

I have had so many similar incidents! There are a couple that really stick out in my memory–one of them was right after I had given birth to our oldest daughter (who will soon be 22). As I was walking into a store, carrying my daughter so that she was looking over my shoulder, an older man and his grandson (probably 4 or 5)were walking behind me. The older man commented to his grandson that my daughter was a cute baby. Unfortunately–for the man and for me, all his grandson could see was big, fat me. He very loudly stated that I was the fattest momma he’d ever seen. Of course the man was trying to cover it up and continued to point out my daughter and say what a cute baby she was, but the little boy was not going to be deterred and continued to loudly voice his opinion about my weight.
I’d like to say that incident motivated me to lose the weight, but it didn’t. I did (briefly) lose weight, in a very unhealthy way, after the birth of our second child. But because I didn’t do it the right way, I ended up gaining the weight back and added an additional 35 pounds to it.
I’ve now been through 5 pregnancies and births and unfortunately I am now nearly 100 pounds heavier than I was even after the birth of our oldest child. My youngest is 6 1/2 so I know I can’t very well say that it’s baby weight. Not to mention that I only gained 15-20 pounds with each of the pregnancies following my first because I was already so obese. :-/
I wish that unkind comments motivated me but they don’t. I’m more likely to be hurt by them. But like you, I have never been upset with a child for voicing the truth.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 03:43:31 +0000

Of course, I don’t like being heavy, but sometimes I think it was good for me to be on the RECEIVING end of those type of comments (I never heard any directed DIRECTLY at me though – except from my own kiddos). Why you might ask? I think it has made me overwhelming more compassionate to those who are heavy. Not that I condone my actions/ or any other heavy persons, as most of time it is our own fault. Yet, it isn’t ALWAYS, and they are still special and a PERSON in God’s eyes. Being fat or heavy doesn’t automatically make you less of a person…that is what I despise about cruel things said in regards to obesity!!!
So, Diane, any tips for a major slacker?!!! I need some serious motivation aka kick in the pants!!
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By: South Beach Steve

South Beach Steve — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:08:25 +0000

Oh, they really do both for me, depending on the situation. I have to admit, the comment you heard are the type that would crush me.

By: Tami

Tami — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:15:46 +0000

I am so sorry you have those kind of experiences Diane. Those kind of things hurt me not motivate me. My dad said something unkind to me about my weight when I was a teenager and I wasn’t even very over weight at the time. It stung and has stuck with me forever.

By: paula

paula — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 22:42:16 +0000

Kids can be so truthful and honest and it stings. I am just like you… instead of motivating me it brings on a binge. I have a friend who weights 300 lbs. We were at the lake and her 4 year old son looks at her and says “you’re fat panda.” He was referring to the cartoon “Kung Fu Panda.” My friend told her son that wasn’t nice and then looked at me so sad and said “he never knew I was fat until he watched that movie.”

Sadly, those who are not overweight don’t realize the impact of their words to someone who is fat.
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By: Hopefool

Hopefool — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 21:16:17 +0000

I’ve suffered the slings and arrows too, of course, from the innocent kids, the not-so innocent kids and the grown-ups.

There have been times that I’ve numbed the pain with food, and at other times I’ve gotten angry and crash dieted. Either way the end result was weight gain.
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By: John

John — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:57:48 +0000

They pissed me off more than anything. Especially when coming from my nephews!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:48:37 +0000

I was just at Disney and I had a little girl keep looking at me and asking her mommy why I was so big! I was horrified! Then more and more kids, I was crying in side! But yes it was a wake up call for me! I am a mother of 3 and have never lost the pregnancy weight and though a really bad divorce and abuse though out the years I have treated my self so badly because that I knew! Stress and craziness all around me I needed a great escape and food was the answer! Now tipping the scales at 334 where do you go from here? Today I am proud to say this is my 2nd day of eating right and removing the harmful poisons foods from my life! I am trying to surround my self with positive motivation that will keep my head afloat! I am extremely fearful of failing and never getting the weight off because I have SO much to loss! Yesterday I walked 30 min! And did not eat after dinner. My “Hungary pains’ kept yelling at me, but I new this was just habit and my stomach just wanted to eat because that’s all I’ve done for 20 years! I have to take charge over my body and over my diction of what I am going to eat! Today I am planning on walking again and I’m excited about my new changes and my new attitude! Any help or motivation is greatly appreciated! For 20 years I’ve put me last and have taken care of my kids and if it was the little girl that could not stop staring at the fat lady at Disney that got my mind turned in the right direction, well now I know I am worth the change and I am now each day going to take care of me! One day at a time!! If you have any encouragement to help my new journey please e-mail me at Jenbfree2004@yahoo.com thank you!

By: Pam

Pam — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:29:01 +0000

I guess I should edit myself to say that kids get this from other sources like TV and other adults as well, but I still feel like the parents should stress compassion far more than they seem to these days.
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By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:08:09 +0000

The degree to which those hurtful comments cause pain is equal to the degree to which someone saying “you look wonderful” and “you’ve lost weight” feel good!
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