Celebrating More Than Just Valentine’s Day This Week

If you think limiting your Valentine’s Day candy to a piece or two of healthier dark chocolate is hard, imagine if you lived in my family.

This week we have our anniversary, my oldest son’s birthday, and my fourth son’s birthday. Plus, it’s Valentine’s Day this week, which just happens to be my favorite holiday. I like it because it’s a simple, one-day event. A pretty card, a bit of dark chocolate, and you are done. Unlike Christmas, which takes a month of preparation and more cash than I dare to think about.

What I have a hard time with this week out of every year is the absolute over abundance of sweets. I can’t just tell the birthday boys, “Well, I’m trying to stay on track with my weight management right now – so no cake for you!” I might have a mini-rebellion on my hands if I tried that one.

So I make cakes for each boy this week.

My oldest son turned 15. You may remember him from my post “I Lost Him!” where I talked about losing as much as he currently weighs. He wanted a Lamborghini cake, because he really believes he will have one some day. I hope he’s right, because if he can afford that, I’m totally moving in with him when I get old.This cake was my first attempt at fondant, and it wasn’t as hard to make or work with as I would have thought.

My fourth son turned 7. He wanted a Star Wars Lego Cake, which I made on Saturday. I think it turned out pretty well, and he was thrilled.

With this much cake in the house, and Valentine’s Day on my doorstep, I found that I almost have to think of the cakes and excess candy as poison for my system. I take a taste at the birthday party table, and then leave it alone. Whenever I’m tempted to just slice a sliver off the cake, I remember that one sliver almost always adds up to two, and two seems to multiply to four.

I find that stopping at one works best for me. With the candy coming up, I told John I’d like a package of Ghiradelli dark chocolate squares that I can portion out and eat just one a day. That works well for me. He’s trying to lose weight and wants no candy. I’m going to do as he asks and hope he’s not disappointed.

If you have any tips for handling the candy, cakes, and treats floating around this week, I would love to add them to my arsenal! Diane

 

No Matter What You Do, It’s The Calories That Matter

There are as many ways to try to lose weight as there are types of flowers – or so it often seems. There’s been the low-carb craze, the high-carb craze, the liquid diets, the cabbage soup diet, and the Beverly Hills diet to name just a few.

Because I’ve been in the weight-loss arena for a lot of years, between my decade of obesity and my almost 14 years of weight maintenance, I’ve seen a lot of diets come and go in popularity. One thing has always remained constant in my mind. It has seemed that no matter what type of diet the person I was speaking with tried, it tended to boil down to caloric intake.

Recently, a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that calories are the final frontier in weight management.

I found this interesting, because it really has been what I privately thought for years. Yes, people lose weight with the South Beach Diet. Yes, they lose weight balancing fat calories. Yes, they lose weight eating a high-carb diet. But the key ingredient seems to be calorie control.

The study found “no differences in weight loss or the reduction of fat between four diets with different proportions of fat, carbohydrates and protein,” according to an article in the Chicago Tribune. Instead it was “diet adherence” that made the difference in whether the participants were successful with losing weight.

Why Does it Matter?

At the end of the day, you’ve got to eat in a way that is sustainable for you, helps you feel good physically, and allows you to lose weight at a reasonable pace. Within those three areas, I think that the sustainability factor is of great importance. Can you sustain the method by which you are losing weight once you reach your goal weight?

If you are eating low-carb, can you transition to maintenance and keep up that lifestyle? If you are following a very low-fat diet like the Ornish Diet, can you keep your fat calories that low for the long-term? Asking yourself these questions is part of learning what weight loss method will work for you.

I can’t tell you the number of people I’ve met who did cut their calories to a weight loss level, but were absolutely unable to sustain their plan long enough to get to their initial goal weight, much less move into weight maintenance. Believe me – it’s a big number.

As you work on losing weight or maintaining your weight, remember that at the end of the day, it’s about calories, sustainability, and being able to stay at a healthy weight once you get there.

Does seeing this study that says the source of the calories doesn’t matter surprise you? What do you think? Diane

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The Fat Trap is Pretty Depressing But There is Hope

There was an article last month published in the New York Times entitled “The Fat Trap.” The author of the article, Tara Parker-Pope, detailed a study by physician Proietto which found some pretty depressing statistics for those of us determined to not only lose weight, but maintain our weight loss.

The author sums up the study, which found hormonal reasons for weight regain, with this statement:

While there is truth to this guidance, it fails to take into account that the human body continues to fight against weight loss long after dieting has stopped. This translates into a sobering reality: once we become fat, most of us, despite our best efforts, will probably stay fat.

The author also struggles with her own weight, admitting to being about 60 pounds overweight right now.  The article mentions the National Weight Control Registry, of which I am a member. She indicates that those people in the registry who consistently maintain a weight loss eat far fewer calories and exercise more minutes per week than those people who never had to lose weight.

One of my fellow weight maintainers, Lynn Haraldson, indicates when interviewed for the article that “People don’t like hearing that it’s (weight maintenance) not easy.” She and others interviewed for the article detail the diligence with which they watch their calories, exercise regularly, and weigh frequently. I admire their honesty and commitment to maintaining their weight.

This article left me pretty depressed because I felt like the end result of the article was the message that if you lose your weight, you will very likely not maintain your weight unless you become a superwoman or man of extraordinary diligence, ultimate focus, and unfailing resolve.

I know that statistically myself, and other long-term maintainers are the exception, not the rule. In our ever increasing society where people of a regular size are in the minotiry, I wonder if part of the reason people have trouble maintianing a healthy weight is that society accepts and makes it very easy to be overweight. The abundance of fast food, the unhealthy processed food that promises quick satisfaction but little nutrition, and the reluctance of some food manufacturers to make changes just contributes to the obesity crisis.

My Rebuttal

I wanted to offer you encouragement and a slight rebuttal to this article. Not every person who maintains a large or small weight loss has to turn into a person who never stops thinking about their weight, and feels like it is a burden. I’m one of those people who finds it a joy to maintain my weight.

Why?

Because I’d much rather exercises consistently, pay attention to the fat, portion size, and calories in my food, and weigh every day than struggle to get out of bed in the morning, find it difficult to tie my shoes, or be so overweight that I can’t fit into normal chairs. Not to mention the health benefits that come with maintaining a healthy weight. Normal blood pressure, ease of movement, little joint pain, good cholesterol levels, and not having my doctor tsk tsk me every time I see her are just a few of those benefits.

If you read this article and left feeling like you should just throw your hands in the air – don’t. Instead, focus on the joy that will come when you get to your healthy weight, and the joy that you will feel every morning when you get out of bed and are able  to exercise and live your life the way you want to – without being hindered by your weight.

How do you feel about weight maintenance – impossibility or a joy to look forward to?  Diane

If you missed my blog about Making Real Changes in your life to achieve great weight loss or maintenance, please check it out on the Attune blog.

The Realities of Weight Loss and Maintenance

Here are some realities I’ve discovered through about 25 years of fighting with obesity and learning to live in weight maintenance.

Obesity is not fun. The realities of struggling with lowered energy levels, the inability the fit into clothes or cars properly, the sad realities of medical problems such as high blood pressure, increased risk of cardiovascular disease and joint problems beat me up throughout the years.

Weight maintenance is not a temporary moment in time, but rather a permanent moment in time.

Weight loss is less about “talking about it” and more about “doing it.”

Weight maintenance is all about doing the right things — most of the time.

Obesity caused me to shrink from life at times, leaving me with fewer friends then I really wanted.

Weight maintenance gives me freedom from constantly worrying that people only “see” my weight rather than my personality.

I tell you all of these things to give you something to think about this week. Weight loss, obesity and most of the associated downsides can be temporary if you turn your life around now. I’d encourage you to examine whether you are standing in your own way from getting where you want to be. Banish your excuses, make a newly renewed commitment to achieving your goals, and share your passion with someone you care about.

What’s a reality you’ve discovered about weight loss and weight maintenance?  Diane

The Truth About Maintenance

When people who do not know my weight loss story find out that 1) I used to weigh 305 pounds, 2) I lost 158 pounds and 3) I’ve kept it off for almost 13 years, they are usually surprised and always full of questions. Aside from all the usual questions about how I lost the weight, many people have questions about the maintenance part of weight loss. This isn’t surprising, because many studies show that only about five percent of people who lose weight keep it off for more than two years.

I don’t ever think about the fact that I’m unusual in keeping my weight off this long, but sometimes people make me feel as though I do something “magic” that they cannot do. I wanted to share today some truths about my life in maintenance to encourage you in the fact that you can maintain your weight once you reach your goal.

There is no magic formula to maintaining my weight. I balance calories and exercise just like I did when I was in the weight loss phase. I do not count calories officially, but I do pay attention to the calorie content of foods I eat. If I know I’m going to eat a brownie for dessert, I eat a very light lunch and skip the bread at dinner. If I eat more than I normally do due to hormonal or stressful days, then I cut back on my food intake for the next day or two.

I weigh everyday. I know this isn’t for everyone, but it works for me. In maintenance, weighing everyday helps me see that I’m within that 3-5 pound range I allow myself to float in. If I hit the top number, I take action immediately and cut out the extra food I’ve been eating. The scale jogs back down and I just continue on with life

I am satisfied with my weight. This is a big one for me. Could I be thinner? Yes, I could probably lose another 10 pounds. But for me, this weight where I have stayed all these years is fairly easy to maintain, whereas if I lost another 10 pounds, I think it would be a struggle to easily maintain. Again, this is a personal choice.

I rarely eat junky foods. You notice I said rarely! I do eat dessert and chips on occasion, but it’s not an everyday thing. Most of the time I make pretty good choices.

I continue to exercise six days a week. Exercise is like the “get out of weight problem jail” card for me. The calories I burn give me the flexibility to eat a little more without worrying about my weight. I also love feeling strong and fit.

I developed my personal mantra of “Never Go Back.” I never want to struggle to walk through the mall because of my weight, get stuck in chairs or avoid social situations solely because of my weight.

I wanted to encourage you that there is no magic in maintenance. The same things you are doing right now to get to a healthy weight are exactly the same things you can do to maintain your weight for years. That’s why picking a weight-loss plan that is sustainable and practical is so important. Can you do it for the rest of your life?

What are your thoughts on maintaining your weight? Diane

The Benefits of Organization

When I first got married I was a “messy.”

Messy at work

Messy at home

Messy in the car

Messy pretty much everywhere!

It’s funny to think about because it was only John and I. Honestly – why was it so hard to be neat and organized? I’m not really certain, but I’m pretty sure it’s because I was lazy. After work I didn’t want to spend time cleaning the house or cooking so we’d just go out to eat and then see a movie. On the weekends vacuuming seemed like such a waste of time, and it was much more fun to go shopping or visiting with friends.

Once the children started coming along my organization skills picked up considerably, and by the time we brought baby number 5 home from the hospital I finally had my act together.

Why am I mentioning organizational skills on a weight loss/maintenance blog? I am mentioning it because I think it is important when working on such an important area of your life like losing weight to get healthy, it’s also important to think about other areas of your life that could help you in your endeavor to get healthy and fit.

And I believe that being organized in general can be helpful when attacking a weight issue. At least it has been for me.

Here are some things I do to stay organized, even with seven kids: (And although I TRY, I’m definitely not saying I’ve got it all together!! Definitely not!)

I try and only touch papers once. Whether it’s mail or papers the kids drag in, I look at it, file it, toss it, or handle it.

I loved the FlyLady website and daily emails. For a time I followed her plans and it really helped teach me how to keep my house cleaning without cleaning all day long! (And by the way – I don’t like cleaning!)

I have a set schedule for the big jobs – like cleaning windows, the garage, the game closet. That way if it gets messy I know that it will get clean shortly.

I involve the family. Even though I have a large family who can help, I don’t want them to feel as though they are constantly cleaning. So we have small things to do each day, and then have a Friday cleaning time, where I make a list of everything that needs doing and they pick what they want to do. We can clean our whole big house in about an hour. Then we are done!  Here’s what a list may look like:

  • dust everything
  • sweep all the wood floors
  • mop the kitchen
  • general straighten
  • organize library books
  • clean all bathrooms
  • vacuum house
  • straighten up pantry
  • clean your own room

As a reward, after we are done, we have homemade pizza and watch a little kid movie. It’s amazing how fast cleaning happens when something good is waiting at the end.

I make daily to-do lists. This helps a lot – even if I don’t get it all done.

I look at a room as I’m leaving it. When I leave the bathroom I take a quick glance over my shoulder and see if there is anything I need to take out with me, or something I should put away before I walk out. Training myself to do this has helped a lot. Now if only the kids did this too!

Being organized around the house has helped me with my weight maintenance. Because I don’t have to spend a lot of time and/or energy with the household chores I find it enjoyable to plan meals, precook foods, and fix healthy snacks for everyone. It also frees up exercise time without guilt.

How do you feel? Do you think that trying to be organized can help you in achieving your goals? Diane

One place I still don’t have any good organizational skills is the car. If you have any “keep the car clean” tips I’d love to hear them!

Temporary Maintenance

I wanted to thank you all for your nice words and encouraging comments from my Dr. Oz show appearance. It was an amazing experience, and I just so appreciate all of your support and good wishes!

I’ve had a hard time concentrating on writing (I wonder why) but one topic that keeps popping into my mind today is maintenance. Dr. Oz said on the show that losing weight was great, but it was maintaining the weight that made him happy. And that’s exactly how I feel. I lost a lot of weight over the 10 years that I was obese, but I never was able to maintain or sustain the weight loss. So here are some thoughts on temporary maintenance – because getting to goal and staying there is most of our goals. At least it was for me!

You know, I’ve read a lot of blogs over the past 10 months and one really great thing I see happening sometimes is that people have lost weight and then hit a plateau of sorts. It can be a plateau very close to their goal weight, or a plateau which is still quite far from their goal. But what I love to see is that in spite of the plateau they aren’t quitting. Rather they are content to work hard at exercise and eating right while at the same time holding steady at their weight. I know that Vickie has talked about this on her blog before.

I call this temporary maintenance. Temporary maintenance is a good thing. It’s a more positive phrase than “stuck on a plateau.” Sometimes this temporary maintenance is deliberate and other times it just happens. But either way, it can be a really important part of your journey. Why?

Because when you are in temporary maintenance you are maintaining. And maintaining is your long term goal. Sure you have a long term goal of losing “x” number of pounds, but more importantly, a longer term goal should be the maintenance of the loss of those “x” pounds! Right? Right. So temporarily maintaining a weight loss, be it for two weeks or two years, isn’t always a bad place to be. It can be frustrating, but if you try and look at that time as a learning experience then perhaps the frustration and inevitable temptation to fall back into old habits can be squashed.

Here are some positive things about temporary maintenance:

♥ You aren’t gaining

♥ You can focus on eating healthy

♥ You can exercise consistently

♥ You can “play” around with food intake, determining where the balance point is

♥ You can try new things

When I was losing weight that final times, I didn’t have any really long periods of temporary maintenance – but there were the occasional weeks or two where my weight seemed to stabilize. And it stabilized at about every 50 pounds. At 250 it stopped for a bit, at about 199 it stopped again. Both times, instead of getting frustrated I remembered how far I had come and how happy I was to be where I was right then. Focusing on the positive aspects of all I had accomplished really helped me too.

How do you react when you hit a temporary maintenance point? Diane

5 Tips for Weight Maintenance

Has this ever happened to you? You lost weight, and perhaps even reached your goal, and then you promptly gained it back. If you are like 95% of dieters out there, this has happened to you. The most commonly cited statistic shows that 95% of people who lose weight will gain it back within two years. That’s depressing.

Why does this typically happen?

I’m speaking from both sides of the aisle here – I’ve gained “lost weight” back more times than I can count, and I’ve maintained a loss. So many people tell me that losing weight is the easy part but the maintenance part is the area they struggle with the most.

For me, when I was on the diet merry-go-round, I’d lose 20 pounds or so, and then find myself gaining back 25 pounds very quickly. I’d no sooner see a small victory on the scale before I began to fall right back into my old eating habits. I didn’t consciously sabotage myself, but I suppose that’s what I was doing.

I remember feeling like, “I’ve got this weight loss thing under control, so I can have some Oreos.” Unfortunately, “some Oreos” turned into an entire package of Oreos, followed by chips, chocolate candy, and ice cream in rapid order. I’d weigh myself after the eating fiasco and see myself up a pound or two. “Oh well,” I’d think, “It’s just a pound. That will come right back off.” Only it didn’t.

That little pound turned into five, and before I knew it, I had gone right back up to where I had begun. It was so frustrating. And I know I’m not alone in having experienced that frustration. So what can you do to prevent regaining your hard-lost weight back? Are there certain strategies you can employ that will get you into the 5% of people who successfully maintain a loss? I think there are.

Here’s the first 5 things that I thought of when I thought of some Weight Maintenance Tips:

1. Don’t change anything the first week after you meet your goal. – Eat like you have been while losing weight and see what your weight does. It can be that you were so close to maintenance calories at the end of your journey that you don’t have to change anything. The only way to know this is to not change anything for a week or so. If you lose weight, then you know you need to add in a few extra calories. Believe me – it won’t be many!

2. Keep up with your exercise. Hopefully the exercise you’ve been doing hasn’t been so excessive that you find it impossible to keep it up. If you must cut back on the exercise you’ve been doing, then you have got to cut back on the food as well. If you don’t you will gain.

3. Make sure you’ve gotten rid of any clothes that are too big for you. (Exception: One or two items of clothing as a reminder of where you came from) By getting rid of the “too-big” clothes you are visually telling yourself every time you open the closet – this is my new size.

4. Have some form of daily accountability. If you don’t weigh yourself every day, make sure you have something that keeps you accountable. Maybe you journal your food, or perhaps you have a pair of jeans that is your “new perfect” size. If so, make sure you keep on checking in with yourself.

5. If you start to see a gain, nip it in the bud immediately. Go back to doing what you did to lose the weight, and that pound or two will come back off. If you don’t get right back at it, it’s so easy to let a pound multiply into twenty. (Believe me – I know!!)

What about you? Do you think it’s easier to lose the weight or maintain the weight?  Do you have some weight maintenance strategies in place now or for the future?  Diane